“You’re building up anticipation as you make that slow, seductive crawl,” says Altman. Next, kiss your partner’s nipples, chest, down along the treasure trail and over to one hip bone, then the other. Start by kissing eyelashes, then the corner of the mouth, the jaw, and the collarbone. Rather than simply making a beeline for your partner’s below-the-belt region, create a slow burn with featherlight kisses. When you’re at the top, slide your whole mouth down and then up, with a sucking motion,” suggests sex therapist Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Don’t Have Sex Again Until You Read This Book. “Swirl up the shaft with the tip of your tongue. Rather than simply moving up and down, use your tongue to slowly wind around his member or her clitoris. But that’s no excuse to rest on your laurels. Let’s be honest: Most people are just grateful to be getting oral sex. “You’re building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it’ll be that much more explosive and exciting.” Make circles “It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric,” says sex coach Patti Britton, Ph.D. Well, the teenage you was on to something. Keep your panties onīack in high school, you probably had rules for how far you’d go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. “The light, sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up your body while also relaxing you for sex,” says Dr.

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